Art of Listening

According to my view listening is pillar of communication. People usually love to listen and praise great orators and follow their steps. Listening is an unsung hero of communication. Words are powerful, but listening can be equally too.

Despite the benefits of listening, many people struggle with listening when others are speaking because you need to react in a very short span of time, and when an orator speaks, the listener somehow takes his views. Active listening requires proper concentration that could be difficult for a person, but besides the difficulty we cannot ignore this phrase “Good Listener is a Good Speaker”. To be a great listener one must take these rules into consideration.

Why Listening Takes Time & Work:

We cannot think that listening is as easy as it looks. Most people do not concentrate on what others are saying and they are in a rush to reply/response, those people are generally aggressive people. But in actual listening takes time and require hard work for a smooth and ideal reply/response.

To make listening easy and responsive, one should follow these rules:

  • Evaluate: You will agree or disagree of someone’s saying.
  • Probe: You ask question according to your point of view.
  • Advise: You give advice and solutions to problems.
  • Interpret: You analyze other’s behavior based on your own experience.

What Makes a Great Listener?

Great listeners have few important qualities

They Ask great questions:

Asking good and logical questions are the evidence of what you are listening and this shows your interest in speaker’s words.

Besides asking great questions, asking more questions also shows your good understanding, action on what you heard with positive approach towards speaker or learning materials.

Asking good and sensible questions also increases yours as well as speaker’s knowledge, which could certainly help to attain knowledge.

Make Eye Contact:

The most important rule in listening is very much obvious but frequently forgotten is to make the eye contact. If you do not look at the person while he is speaking, you impression would be as you do not care of what he says, thus, you could not able to response in a positive way.

Do not interrupt:

Let the person speak uninterrupted. To master the art of listening is you need to give respect to thoughts and opinions of others and when other person speaks and listen him quietly, the main purpose is to shine the spotlight on them not you.

Practicing “Active Listening”

The art of listening is not about you stay quite all the time, it’s all about asking questions, you need to ask question for the clarity of yourself. If you ask question for clarification you will fully understand of what speaker is saying. This is called Active Listening by which you can easily transfer your responses to other person’s mind.

Show You Understand:

Another good way of listening is to show that you understand his words; you cannot make the noises that show you re in a tune of what the person is saying the words like “Yes”, “Yeah” and “Okay”. This seems trivial. You need to demonstrate your ideas and interests in order to show that you have understood his words.

Non-Verbal Communication:

About 60% to 75% of our communication is non-verbal. In order to know whether you are encouraging the speaker, you open yourself more, it is essential to understand what the other’s body is saying, does he showing the signs of discomfort. Does their body aligning their words?