There are lot’s of explanations about the common barriers that people encounter during listening. Here’s the most common ones that challenge us..<\/p>\n
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Comparing:<\/strong> assessing who’s smarter, competent, more knowledegable etc. While the other speaks, I’m thinking \u201cI earn more than that\u201d, \u201cmy kids are much brighter\u201d etc. I don’t let anything in because I’m too busy sizing up the other<\/p>\n Mind Reading<\/strong>: not paying attention to the words but trying to decode meanings – \u201cshe thinks I’m stupid but I’ll play along\u201d etc. Trying to see what may not exist<\/p>\n Rehearsing<\/strong>: not listening because I’m busy preparing the rebuttal or reply. I pretend to be interested but my mind is saying \u201che’ll say this then I’ll tell him that..\u201d<\/p>\n Filtering<\/strong>: listening to certain things and not others. I wait to see if there’s any real emotional danger – like the person is angry or distressed – but if that is not the case, my mind wanders.<\/p>\n <\/span><\/p>\n Say, for instance, I’m a manager who strongly believes that when people talk and enjoy their work they aren’t getting their work done properly. Because of my belief, I value silence and seriousness on the job. I also have the attitude that people who kid around don’t perform as they should.<\/p>\n On the other hand, if I believed that a relaxed and enjoyable working environment keeps work from being drudgery and makes it acceptable. I would be able to value an understanding, easygoing supervisor.<\/p>\n Judging<\/strong>: by pre-judging someone as junior or not very intelligent etc, I write them off as insignificant even before I’ve started rather than withholding judgment until after the content is made known<\/p>\n Dreaming<\/strong>: a trigger word and I wander off to another time, a different place until I suddenly come back just in time to hear the other saying \u201cthank you for your attention\u201d<\/p>\n Identifying<\/strong>: someone talks about a toothache and you suddenly launch into your own story about the difficult time you had at the dentist last month; the other feels depressed because you did not listen to the painful experience she had<\/p>\n Sparring<\/strong>: instant disagreement or arguing and debating . \u201cWell this may be what you think but I think it’s ridiculous\u201d. If you see GEO TV and watch our politicians discussing something, this will become evident<\/p>\n Being Right – also called Being the Boss – <\/strong>I consider myself right all the time and cannot <\/strong> accept that I have made a mistake. I will go to any length to get my point across including twisting the facts to win. I hear colleagues’ views just to show them I’m a nice boss but I have little interest<\/p>\n Derailing<\/strong>: suddenly changing the subject when I’m bored or joking away the topic if it makes me uncomfortable<\/p>\n Superficially Accomodating<\/strong>: I agree with everything – \u201cright, right, oh yes, absolutely, oh really?\u201d etc<\/p>\n Additional Barriers<\/p>\n Quick Check?<\/span><\/p>\n Generally what kind of blocks do you commonly find yourself using? Think about it. There are lot’s of explanations about the common barriers that people encounter during listening. Here’s the most common ones that challenge us..<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-30","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-communication-skills","category-personal-effectiveness","post-preview"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\tThe Image of Leadership – The role of listening can seem to contradict common cultural notions of what a leader is. In a society that values leaders who are action oriented, charismatic, visionary, and directive, the expectation is that leaders should have the answers, call the shots, and do all the talking. <\/span><\/h2>\n
Silence as Agreement <\/span>– Listening quietly can also be confused with agreement or acceptance of the other’s ideas and perspective.<\/span><\/h2>\n<\/div>\n
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